[v0.11.0] [P/D] force with_prefill true after allreduce in kv producer (#3835)

### What this PR does / why we need it?
force with_prefill true after allreduce in kv producer. This is a backport of #3768 and #3849

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Signed-off-by: liziyu <liziyu16@huawei.com>

vllm_ascend/distributed/mooncake_layerwise_connector.py

@@ -1145,7 +1145,8 @@ class MooncakeLayerwiseConnectorWorker:
                       connector_metadata: MooncakeLayerwiseConnectorMetadata,
                       **kwargs) -> None:
         """MooncakeLayerwiseConnector does not save explicitly."""
-        if self.kv_role == 'kv_producer':
+        if self.kv_role == 'kv_producer' and connector_metadata.requests.keys(
+        ):
             if self.pd_head_ratio != 1:
                 if self.current_layer != 0:
                     self.completion_event.wait()

vllm_ascend/worker/model_runner_v1.py

@@ -2364,6 +2364,10 @@ class NPUModelRunner(LoRAModelRunnerMixin):
             tp_size = self.vllm_config.parallel_config.tensor_parallel_size
             num_tokens = math.ceil(num_tokens / tp_size) * tp_size
 
+        # Force dummy run on prefill stage when this node is deemed as kv producer.
+        if self.is_kv_producer and not self.is_kv_consumer:
+            with_prefill = True
+
         # Padding for DP
         (num_tokens, num_tokens_across_dp, with_prefill,
          _) = self._sync_metadata_across_dp(num_tokens, with_prefill, False)
@@ -2411,10 +2415,6 @@ class NPUModelRunner(LoRAModelRunnerMixin):
         num_scheduled_tokens = np.array(num_scheduled_tokens_list,
                                         dtype=np.int32)
 
-        # Force dummy run on prefill stage when this node is deemed as kv producer.
-        if self.is_kv_producer and not self.is_kv_consumer:
-            with_prefill = True
-
         if not self.in_profile_run and self.dynamic_eplb:
             self.eplb_updator.forward_before()