[bugfix] fix torchair runtime error caused by configuration mismtaches and file missing (#2532)

### What this PR does / why we need it?
This PR ports #2312 #2506 #2531 to main branch.

Original implementation of torchair caching forces users to make
everything prepared, fix all the configuration and enable
`use_cached_npu_graph`, and it might cause some problems confusing to
understand and tackle for users. It is better to compile the graph twice
instead of reusing the old kvcaches and cached torchair graph. And the
extra duration time is acceptable. Additionally, this pr fixes a
recompilation problem of torchair graph mode caused by
`running_in_graph` variable in `AscendMLATorchairImpl`.

### Does this PR introduce _any_ user-facing change?
If users want to enabling torchair.cache_compile with high compilation
speed, it is recommended to enable both `use_cached_kv_cache_bytes` and
`use_cached_graph` in `torchair_graph_config`. Without
`use_cached_kv_cache_bytes`, we'll compile torchair computation graph
twice to avoid runtime error caused by configuration mismtaches (the
second compilation will be much faster). Additionally, we've made a
change to how the TORCHAIR_CACHE_HOME enviroment variable is utilized to
enhance safety and prevent accidental file deletion by adding a suffix
directory.

### How was this patch tested?
CI and e2e vllm serving pass.


- vLLM version: v0.10.1.1
- vLLM main:
70549c1245

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Signed-off-by: linfeng-yuan <1102311262@qq.com>

vllm_ascend/ascend_config.py

@@ -73,6 +73,8 @@ class TorchairGraphConfig:
         self.mode = torchair_graph_config.get("mode", '')
         self.use_cached_graph = torchair_graph_config.get(
             "use_cached_graph", False)
+        self.use_cached_kv_cache_bytes = torchair_graph_config.get(
+            "use_cached_kv_cache_bytes", False)
         self.graph_batch_sizes = torchair_graph_config.get(
             "graph_batch_sizes", [])
         self.graph_batch_sizes_init = torchair_graph_config.get(
@@ -99,6 +101,10 @@ class TorchairGraphConfig:
                 raise RuntimeError(
                     "use_cached_graph is valid only when Torchair graph mode is enabled"
                 )
+            if self.use_cached_kv_cache_bytes:
+                raise RuntimeError(
+                    "use_cached_kv_cache_bytes is valid only when Torchair graph mode is enabled"
+                )
             if self.graph_batch_sizes:
                 raise RuntimeError(
                     "graph_batch_sizes is valid only when Torchair graph mode is enabled"
@@ -119,6 +125,10 @@ class TorchairGraphConfig:
                 raise RuntimeError(
                     "enable_kv_nz is valid only when Torchair graph mode is enabled"
                 )
+        if self.use_cached_kv_cache_bytes and not self.use_cached_graph:
+            raise RuntimeError(
+                "use_cached_kv_cache_bytes is valid only when Torchair graph mode and use_cached_graph are enabled"
+            )
 
 
 class AscendSchedulerConfig: