[main2main] upgrade vllm to 0308 (#7213)

### What this PR does / why we need it?
Update main2main to vllm 0308.
breaks:

* https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/pull/30681
* https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/pull/35552 remove
self.cudagraph_batch_sizes
* https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/pull/35158 clear_metadata ->
defer_finalize
* https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/pull/36006 remove
CacheConfig.cpu_offload_gb
* https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/pull/35472
* https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/pull/34552 attn_metadata_builder
* https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/pull/30515 profile_seq_lens
* https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/pull/28053 

- vLLM version: v0.16.0
- vLLM main:
4034c3d32e

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Signed-off-by: MrZ20 <2609716663@qq.com>
Signed-off-by: menogrey <1299267905@qq.com>
Co-authored-by: MrZ20 <2609716663@qq.com>

.github/workflows/pr_test_light.yaml

@@ -41,7 +41,7 @@ jobs:
   lint:
     uses: ./.github/workflows/_pre_commit.yml
     with:
-      vllm: 4034c3d32e30d01639459edd3ab486f56993876d
+      vllm: 4497431df654e46fb1fb5e64bf8611e762ae5d87
   changes:
     runs-on: linux-aarch64-a2b3-0
     outputs:
@@ -90,7 +90,7 @@ jobs:
     if: ${{ needs.lint.result == 'success' && (needs.changes.outputs.e2e_tracker == 'true' || needs.changes.outputs.ut_tracker == 'true') }}
     strategy:
       matrix:
-        vllm_version: [4034c3d32e30d01639459edd3ab486f56993876d, v0.17.0]
+        vllm_version: [4497431df654e46fb1fb5e64bf8611e762ae5d87, v0.17.0]
     uses: ./.github/workflows/_unit_test.yaml
     with:
       vllm: ${{ matrix.vllm_version }}
@@ -102,7 +102,7 @@ jobs:
     name: e2e-light
     strategy:
       matrix:
-        vllm_version: [4034c3d32e30d01639459edd3ab486f56993876d, v0.17.0]
+        vllm_version: [4497431df654e46fb1fb5e64bf8611e762ae5d87, v0.17.0]
     # Note (yikun): If CI resource are limited we can split job into two chain jobs
     needs: [lint, changes]
     # only trigger e2e test after lint passed and the change is e2e related with pull request.