[Feat] shared expert dp for deepseek_mtp (#3811)

### What this PR does / why we need it?
Support shared expert DP for deepseek_mtp feature. 
`shared_expert_dp` requires `SP==True`, with corresponding parameter
restrictions.
Previously, due to the coupling between `shared_expert_dp` and torchair,
and the removal of `deepseek_mtp` in vllm_ascend, shared expert dp of
deepseek_mtp was temporarily removed.
Currently, by performing the `reduce_scatter` on the input of
deepssek_mtp in `mtp_proposer.py`, we ensure that it matches the
dimensions of `input_embedding`, and then perform the `all_gather` on
the output of mtp.

### How was this patch tested?
baseline:
<img width="1184" height="692" alt="image"
src="https://github.com/user-attachments/assets/9680d53a-7b1d-481a-accc-b8f3dae2b9e3"
/>

enable shared_expert_dp and multistream_overlap_shared_expert:
<img width="1167" height="687" alt="image"
src="https://github.com/user-attachments/assets/2531d06b-dfda-4e24-8628-6f4b0f677ddc"
/>

TPOT: 48ms -> 45.4ms
Average TPS per rank: 117.6 -> 126.1


- vLLM version: v0.11.2
- vLLM main: https://github.com/vllm-project/vllm/commit/v0.11.2

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Signed-off-by: chenmenglong <chenmenglong1@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: zengran <zengran2@huawei.com>
Co-authored-by: zengran <zengran2@huawei.com>

vllm_ascend/attention/mla_v1.py

@@ -1677,6 +1677,8 @@ class AscendMLAImpl(MLAAttentionImpl):
         forward_context = get_forward_context()
         if (self.enable_mlapo and
             (attn_metadata is None or not forward_context.with_prefill)):
+            hidden_states = torch.ops.vllm.maybe_all_gather_and_maybe_unpad(
+                hidden_states.contiguous(), need_gather_q_kv)
             decode_preprocess_res, prefill_preprocess_res = self._mla_decode_preprocess(
                 hidden_states, kv_cache, attn_metadata)
         else: